Why women prefer the ‘bad boys’ over ‘nice guys’
What is generally the thing in daily life that you avoid feeling the most? Boredom. You hate getting bored. What is the opposite of boring? Excitement. People respond to something that they find different and new, that excites them. Nice is not exciting, its normal, its what we expect, and find everywhere around us everyday. Nice is actually boring.
The reason why bad boys are bad is because they are bold. That doesn’t mean they are calling girl names, robbing them or beating them, they appear bold because they say things that cross the boundaries of conventional nice talk. When you do that, not only that surprises the person, confuses them slightly, but also excites them because you enter a new territory of conversation. Does that work every time, No. Does that work a lot? Yes, because plenty women like men who are bold, open, and clever with the way they choose their words. A lot of guys who are not that, try to be that and they fail miserably because being bold is right next to being rude and creepy. The reason why you end up becoming being creepy is, you are trying being bold for the first time, so that becomes an experiment, which means the first few times you are gonna hit a road bumps.
They guys who are bold are able to get girls attention because they are not trying, they own it. They uncompromisingly present that personality to women, and give them the choice: ‘I am not going to change for you, the choice is yours. Do you like talking to me? Or not? If not, you can get out. Nobody’s stopping you’. And girls loved that confidence, therefore get roped in even more.
The nice guy on the other hand is trying the age old conventional method of getting the girl which Is called: ‘I will respect the shit out of you’. Now women don’t turn on (usually) by respect, it is something they take for granted that you will have to do, it isn’t something that excites them. Those are the rules of any conversation with any person you are with, being respectful to each other, when that doesn’t happen, you leave those conversations. That’s how daily life works. Now here is something to notice, both the nice guy and the bad guy have the same intention: getting the girl. So, up to this point, the competition is between bold, charging method vs boring, conventional method. I don’t know where exactly this nice guy and bad boy thing comes from. I think this is an invention of guys who constantly get rejected by girls to calm down their egos. ‘ I cant get girls, so clearly there is something wrong with girls, because I am the nice guy’ Shouldn’t nice be a characteristic attribute given to you by others? How can you call yourself nice? Isn’t that a bit self absorbed?
Humans in general want excitement in life, that’s why you are always on your phone. The phone eradicates boredom, right? Women are humans too. Just like a phone, if you excited them, they will spend more time on you. If you don’t, they will choose another app, or page, whatever…you get the analogy.
Where does this bad, good, nice thing come from? Human behavior essentially. All of us like to show we are very nice, good hearted human beings. So, that becomes a default personality type that we sell to everybody. This is not our real personality. Your real personality is well, biologically and environmentally driven, which means apart from likes, dislikes, ambitions, dreams, you are highly sexual, watch porn, satisfy yourself, think of really kinky stuff, think of doing a lot of kinky stuff and I am talking about women here. With men, that is not mistery. But this reality comes in direct opposition or contradiction to our angelic, nice personality we sell.
So when guys meet girls, they thing she is nice and an angel, even though I am sexual monster, I shall procced to charm her by being nice and ‘how was your day, dear?’. Bold guys on the other hand know that women are just as sexual as men, maybe even more, but they also know, that they want to be charmed, not assaulted with boobs and vagina requests. So, they start by charming women and simultaneously upping the excitement by breaking the nice conventional personality barriers. And as the barriers break more and more, girls find themselves attracted and excited by these guys more and more as well. Meanwhile the nice guy is busy promoting the bullshit conventional nice personality conversation the she is bored of. So, clearly the conversation doesn’t go anywhere, and the guy after being hellishly repetitive just drops this bomb: ‘I like you, would you like to go out with me?’ Nooo. She wants to go out with a guy who she thinks is fun, she can be herself with, not a guy in front of whom she has to keep the nice person persona. Get it?
Hope that makes clear why the ‘bad boys’ have the upper hand in dating
